to compromise or sacrifice

how far does a person can or supposed to go in compromising or sacrificing something?
what is it that can or cannot be involved in these matters?
where are the lines of these noble acts to do somewhat a good deed; to maintain things as well as they are?
& when is enough actually enough?

friends? family? long time associate? acquaintance? neighbor? lover?

is it different for every one of them?
when u care for a person u would do anything.
but what if it starts to feel like a responsibility?
that's acceptable.
a burden?
moreover...
it made u angry? hurt? cry?
yup...

or hurt others?

when u compromise, its an agreement of both sides.
its a give & take thing.
a problem comes between the two, & u come up with a solution thus compromising.
it can be as loud as a legal contract or silent as a mutual understanding.
but it takes the two to actually understand what the other needs.
what if one is to compromise to a situation but the other doesn't realize it,
nor sees the costs & effects of that so-called compromise will cause?

can u live ur whole life just swallowing something hard for the benefit of others & urself?

what if it starts to benefit others....only?
what if it there was no benefit at all?
is that an act of unconditional love? compassionate concern? overwhelming security?
swallowing & swallowing till u eventually get mentally obesse. & explode.

simple la.
its a choice, regardless of anything.
u wanna commit to something & ur mind has made up, the rest that comes along won't matter much.
& if ur feeling like ur forced into something, get out.
compromise & being dictated are two very different things.

u can care for a person but dont la be ignorant of things that could harm u,
it could come across as bullying.
but to be paranoid of being stepped on 24/7 would just make u moron. period.

so yeah. im an idiot.

im an idiot & im confused. thank u very much.